"Being part of a community, after all, means sacrificing a sliver of one’s own individuality in favor of a shared identity... members need to trust each other enough to know the sacrifice will be worth it.”                                                                                                             - Jonelle Seitz

Rituals

What are Rituals?

Rituals are practices designed to deepen connection and increase group unity. They serve to empower people around a shared goal or interest.

Every group ritual practice is different. They are individualized to the needs of their members and created out of the past experiences each member has endured, this is where much of the power comes from. Adopting the practices of others will never have the same effect as creating one’s own. The rituals of others can serve as valuable templates and guides. Just as the practices of our ancestors has guided the creation of our rituals, we hope ours can help guide yours. 

"Rituals are practices capable of providing identity to a community and creating bonds among its members... Such rituals function as a way of uniting groups through resistance, an unconscious message that ensures “if we’re united, we can survive any pain, any challenge.”

                                                                                                                               -Faena Aleph

Why incorporate Rituals in your life?

Rituals can be used to empower positive life changes. Much of the empowerment comes from the connection between members. Group rituals show us that our actions and decisions have real effects on more than just ourselves, and through striving to better our own lives, we actively help better the lives of our group and our friends and families. 

 

They give us a structure in which we can return to and continually build upon. Gaining actionable insight on a weekly basis. And facilitating us in dealing with our fears and anxieties in a way that empowers us, rather than hinders us.

 

In our everyday life, fears and anxieties, are naturally ignored because they interfere with our present moment objectives. But as we ignore them and push them out of conscious awareness, they continue to grow and exert their effects on us subconsciously. In a ritual setting we can allow, even encourage, these fears and anxieties into to come conscious awareness, so we can acknowledge them, accept them, and let them go. Shedding their control in the process. 

Ritual settings encourage vulnerability, openness, and acceptance. As we allow ourselves to be vulnerable around others, we deepen our connection with ourselves, others, and the universe. And strengthen our resolve in confronting our problems as individuals. 

How do we create rituals in our lives?

People: The most important thing in creating a positive ritual is to find people that have similar values.  People that are accepting and trusting. Vulnerability is essential to an effective ritual. But that vulnerability needs to be cultivated over time, you can't expect to be completely vulnerable in the first or even the 10th session. You don't need to find people that you have a deep relationship with already, the connection will come with time. All that matters is you find people that you can relate to and that you would like to grow with. Starting with 1 or 2 people is probably best, as you add more people the dynamic changes and it becomes harder to deepen the connection.

Time & Place: Once you have found your group members. The next step is finding a time and a place. The most important thing is that these stay consistent. It's ok if you have to change the time a little earlier or later to meet a member's needs, or need to change the location slightly to accommodate everyone. But you do not want to be changing every session. Consistency is critical to the effectiveness of rituals. Choose a time that everyone has free. We have found success meeting weekly. You may find meeting more or less frequently to be valuable. 

 

Find a secluded place where you will not be disturbed, a place that has significance to your group, preferably in nature. We chose a place that is in the woods of the land in which one of us grew up.

Structure: The structure is essentially everything you do from the time you and your partners meet until the time you depart. The variables are endless and it may be overwhelming to create this part, but start simple. Remember your goals. The goal is to deepen connection. This requires a certain degree of vulnerability. Sharing about your life, your feelings, your fears, and anxieties, can all serve to connect us more. 

 

Talking will probably take up the largest portion of the ritual. Silence will often be another part. Beyond that, there are endless potential ways to lower barriers and connect more. Music, dance, hiking, hugging, exercise, games, etc. could all be implemented.

If you would like to know more specifically about our ritual send us a message. We would love to share with others, but we know that if we posted our ritual here, much of its value would be lost to the reader. 

Principles:  Here are some principles to keep in mind when creating your ritual.

  • In order for any of us to change, we need to be fully accepted for where we are now. 

  • Vulnerability is a prerequisite to a deeper connection.

  • We can use altered states of consciousness to optimize our everyday waking consciousness. 

  • Trust the moment, stay present. Worries of the future or the past will only serve to disconnect us. 

  • Feel Everything - No feeling is bad or wrong. All feelings have value and can help guide us (fear and anxiety as much as any).

  • Acknowledging and feeling our fears liberates us from their control.

  • We can empower ourselves and the people in our lives by fostering deeper connections. Connections in ourselves, in our family, in our community, and most of all in the present moment.

  • When we disconnect from pain, anxiety, and fear we also disconnect from love, gratitude and joy. 

Want to understand the power of rituals? Try This  

Communities have the capability of providing something for everybody, only because, and only when they are created by everybody. - Jane Jacobs

Rituals

What are Rituals?

Rituals are practices designed to deepen connection and increase group unity. They serve to empower people around a shared goal or interest.

Every group ritual practice is different. They are individualized to the needs of their members and created out of the past experiences each member has endured, this is where much of the power comes from. Adopting the practices of others will never have the same effect as creating one’s own. The rituals of others can serve as valuable templates and guides. Just as the practices of our ancestors has guided the creation of our rituals, we hope ours can help guide yours. 

"Rituals are practices capable of providing identity to a community and creating bonds among its members... Such rituals function as a way of uniting groups through resistance, an unconscious message that ensures “if we’re united, we can survive any pain, any challenge.”

                                                                                                                               -Faena Aleph

Why incorporate Rituals in your life?

Rituals can be used to empower positive life changes. Much of the empowerment comes from the connection between members. Group rituals show us that our actions and decisions have real effects on more than just ourselves, and through striving to better our own lives, we actively help better the lives of our group and our friends and families. 

 

They give us a structure in which we can return to and continually build upon. Gaining actionable insight on a consistent basis. And facilitating us in dealing with our fears and anxieties in a way that empowers us, rather than hinders us.

 

In our everyday life, fears and anxieties, are naturally ignored because they interfere with our present moment objectives. But as we ignore them and push them out of conscious awareness, they continue to grow and exert their effects on us subconsciously. In a ritual setting, we can allow, even encourage, these fears and anxieties into our conscious awareness, we can acknowledge them, accept them, and let them go. Shedding their control in the process. 

Ritual settings encourage vulnerability, openness, and acceptance. As we allow ourselves to be vulnerable around others, we deepen our connection with ourselves, others, and the universe. And strengthen our resolve in confronting our problems as individuals. 

How do we create rituals in our lives?

People: The most important thing in creating a positive ritual is to find people that have similar values.  People that are accepting and trusting. Vulnerability is essential to an effective ritual. But that vulnerability needs to be cultivated over time, you can't expect to be completely vulnerable in the first or even the 10th session. You don't need to find people that you have a deep relationship with already, the connection will come with time. All that matters is you find people that you can relate to and that you would like to grow with. Starting with 1 or 2 people is probably best, as you add more people the dynamic changes and it becomes harder to deepen the connection.

Time & Place: Once you have found your group members. The next step is finding a time and a place. The most important thing is that these stay consistent. It's ok if you have to change the time a little earlier or later to meet a member's needs, or need to change the location slightly to accommodate everyone. But you do not want to be changing every session. Consistency is critical to the effectiveness of rituals. Choose a time that everyone has free. We have found success meeting weekly. You may find meeting more or less frequently to be valuable. 

 

Find a secluded place where you will not be disturbed, a place that has significance to your group, preferably in nature. We chose a place that is in the woods of the land in which one of us grew up.

Structure: The structure is essentially everything you do from the time you and your partners meet until the time you depart. The variables are endless and it may be overwhelming to create this part, but start simple. Remember your goals. The goal is to deepen connection. This requires a certain degree of vulnerability. Sharing about your life, your feelings, your fears, and anxieties, can all serve to connect us more. 

 

Talking will probably take up the largest portion of the ritual. Silence will often be another part. Beyond that, there are endless potential ways to lower barriers and connect more. Music, dance, hiking, hugging, exercise, games, etc. could all be implemented.

If you would like to know more specifically about our ritual send us a message. We would love to share with others, but we know that if we posted our ritual here, much of its value would be lost to the reader. 

Principles:  Here are some principles to keep in mind when creating your ritual.

  • In order for any of us to change, we need to be fully accepted for where we are now. 

  • Vulnerability is a prerequisite to a deeper connection.

  • We can use altered states of consciousness to optimize our everyday waking consciousness. 

  • Trust the moment, stay present. Worries of the future or the past will only serve to disconnect us. 

  • Feel Everything - No feeling is bad or wrong. All feelings have value and can help guide us (fear and anxiety as much as any).

  • Acknowledging and feeling our fears liberates us from their control.

  • We can empower ourselves and the people in our lives by fostering deeper connections. Connections in ourselves, in our family, in our community, and most of all in the present moment.

  • When we disconnect from pain, anxiety, and fear we also disconnect from love, gratitude and joy. 

Want to understand the power of rituals? Try This  

  • Get together with 1-5 people.

  • Sit facing your other members.

  • Ring a bell to signal silence

  • Gaze into each other's eyes for along as is tolerable. Shoot for 30 seconds to a minute to start, and gradual

  • Start the ritual by ringing a bell and begin focusing on your breath, try to extend the breath, and use the air in your lungs as efficiently as possible. The intention here is to get in touch with our internal state. This phase lasts for about 5 minutes. 

  • The next phase is eye gazing. You look into the eyes of each one of your other members for as long as is tolerable. At first, shoot for 30 seconds to 1 minute. The intention here is to connect with your other members and feel what they are going through. 

  • After each eye gazing session, stop and talk about what you felt and saw. The goal here is to be open and vulnerable and to feel everything. If you feel uncomfortable, then you can be assured that your doing it right. 

  • After everyone has gazed into each other's eyes and talked. End the ritual by ringing the bell again. Gauge how you are feeling and what the ritual provided for you. If it was a positive experience, try to schedule another time to do it again, and make it a consistent ritual.  

Communities have the capability of providing something for everybody, only because, and only when they are created by everybody. - Jane Jacobs

About Us

We are two brothers that have struggled with mental illness and addiction most of our lives. We realized disconnection was at the heart of our problems. We are attempting to reconnect with ourselves and our community. One of the ways we do this is with our podcast. Another way is with our weekly group ritual.

 

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